And Then Everything Changed
Turning Dark Into Light- Twentyone Olive Trees :A Mother’s Walk Through the Grief of Suicide featuring Laura Formentini

Turning Dark Into Light- Twentyone Olive Trees :A Mother’s Walk Through the Grief of Suicide featuring Laura Formentini

December 21, 2021

Laura Formentini was in Ethiopia when her son Blaise died by suicide. An empath like her, he had difficulty connecting to the material world and day to day life often felt overwhelming for him. Though it took years and has been painful, she has come to accept and honor her son’s choice to no longer be here. Humanitarian work and sponsoring more than 40 kids in 18 years enabled her to survive her grief and transform it into a healing force in the world. She truly believes it is possible to turn dark into light even while experiencing loss. Laura joins the last episode of And Then Everything Changed to tell Blaise’s story and talk about her new book Twentyone Olive Trees: A Mother’s Walk Through the Grief of Suicide. 

 

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Laura's Website: www.lauraformentini.com

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Laura's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/authorlauraformentini/

 

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About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

 

Holding the Evangelical Church Accountable featuring Shelly Snow Pordea

Holding the Evangelical Church Accountable featuring Shelly Snow Pordea

December 14, 2021

When Shelly Snow Pordea reached out to church leaders about the sexual abuse she suffered as a child she found no support, no advocacy; instead the process of telling her story to church elders revictimized her. She would come to discover her experience was all too common. In the Independent fundamental baptist movement her family was part of, patriarchy was in full force and misogyny ran rampant. There was a dress code, gender roles were rigid, and women had to be submissive. Shelly was taught that as a girl she was inherently dangerous, the sexualization of women and children was their own fault, and that she was responsible for the way men treated her. Without any education but the curriculum the church offered and isolation from the outside world, it took her and her siblings years to break away from the community in which she was raised. She has now made it her mission to speak out about the church’s harmful practices. In this episode she shares her story and her advocacy work, her thoughts on the Josh Duggar case, and reflects on how being an artist helped save her.

 

About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

 

Connect with Shelly:

Shelly's Website: www.shellysnowpordea.com

Shelly's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shellysnowpordea/

The Hug Who Had No Arms: https://www.amazon.com/Hug-Who-Had-No-Arms/dp/1735012017

Tracing Time: The Past Outlines A Legacy: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1943526532

 

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About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

 

Inside Passage: A Missing Father, a Fractured Childhood, and the Redemptive Power of Music featuring sisters Keema and Tekla Waterfield

Inside Passage: A Missing Father, a Fractured Childhood, and the Redemptive Power of Music featuring sisters Keema and Tekla Waterfield

December 7, 2021

Keema and Tekla Waterfield were raised by a young single mother in Southeast Alaska after their father left the family. With very little money but a passion for music and art, their mother moved them frequently in pursuit of her education, gigs, and new relationships. “Music festival brats” from a young age, Keema and Tekla reveled in summer trips to watch their mother perform with her friends and also sing beside her; those gatherings would become the most stable facet of their childhoods. 

As the sisters grew, art and their at-times traumatic childhood led each of the sisters on different paths. Keema wrote Inside Passage, a new memoir about her nomadic Alaskan childhood, the toll her upbringing took on her, and the effect it had on her relationship with her mother. Tekla became a singer-songwriter whose most recent release, "New Skies" landed in the NACC Top 30 Folk Album Charts in October of 2021.

On this episode of And Then Everything Changed they share their perspective on their childhood, how each of them grappled with their father leaving, and why art has always been central in their lives.

 

About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

 

Connect with Keema:

Keema's Website: https://keemawaterfield.com

Link to Keema’s memoir Inside Passage:

Ronit’s review of Inside Passage: https://therumpus.net/2021/08/inside-passage-by-keema-waterfield/

 

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Tekla's Website: www.teklawaterfield.com

Tekla's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teklawaterfieldmusic/

 

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About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

Leaving the Unification Church after an Arranged Marriage featuring Limi Marie Bauer

Leaving the Unification Church after an Arranged Marriage featuring Limi Marie Bauer

November 23, 2021

Limi Marie Bauer was born into the cult where her parents met via an arranged marriage. They raised Limi in the Unification Church, known as the Moonies in popular culture, and Limi knew from a young age she would grow up and have an arranged marriage herself. As she got closer and closer to her wedding day she began to rebel and step away from church, but at 19 she married a man she’d met only three days before her wedding. It wasn’t until she heard her children talking about being in the cult that she realized she could no longer stay. In this episode Limi shares her experience of the Unification Church’s power dynamics, dogma, and how because of its many front organizations it is able to hide in plain sight. Today she’s working on a memoir about growing up in and leaving the Moonies and active in the #IGotOut movement for cult survivors.

 

About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

 

Connect with Limi:

"The Champion" a short story for #igotout (high-demand group survivor stories) https://youtu.be/m1TP-ZMhfMg 

Website: www.limimariebauer.com 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/limibauer

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/writingwithlimi/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@writingwithlimi?

 

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About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

Caring For and Writing About The Mother Who Betrayed You featuring author Laura Davis

Caring For and Writing About The Mother Who Betrayed You featuring author Laura Davis

November 9, 2021

Laura Davis, celebrated author and advocate, joins And Then Everything Changed for episode 100! When Laura’s groundbreaking first book, The Courage to Heal was released decades ago it was the first of its kind to document hundreds of women’s stories of sexual abuse. In it, Laura shared her own story of being sexually abused by her grandfather, showed women it was possible to heal from this trauma, and called out the patriarchy. As she helped hundreds of thousands of women and her star rose, a rupture began in her own family. Her mother refused to believe Laura about the abuse she’d suffered, and when Laura came out as lesbian her family rejected her.

 

Laura relocated across the country and found a supportive community, a loving relationship, became a mother, and wrote and published many more books. Then, toward the end of her mother’s life, she told Laura she was moving to live near her and Laura faced the prospect of caring for and being in relationship again with her mother who had hurt her so many years before. In this episode Laura shares what it was like to write her new memoir, The Burning Light of Two Stars: A Mother-Daughter Story about how she reconciled with the mother who betrayed her and came to care for her in her final days.

 

Also in this episode: Laura’s tips for writing about traumatic experiences, where the boundaries are when writing about family experiences, and what all memoir writing needs.

 

Connect with Laura:

You can buy The Burning Light of Two Stars wherever books and audiobooks are sold.

 You can also read the opening chapters of The Burning Light of Two Stars at: www.lauradavis.net/chapters

If you’re an aspiring writer or want to use writing as a tool for healing or self-discovery, you can learn about Laura’s online writing workshops and in-person domestic and international retreats here: www.lauradavis.net

Direct links to buy The Burning Light of Two Stars:

Bookshop.org: https://bookshop.org/books/the-burning-light-of-two-stars-a-mother-daughter-story-9781954854161/9781954854161

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Burning-Light-Two-Stars-Mother-Daughter/dp/1954854218/

Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-burning-light-of-two-stars-laura-davis/1139198069

Indiebound: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781954854161

Get Your Signed Copies Through Bookshop Santa Cruz: https://www.bookshopsantacruz.com/burning-light-two-stars-get-it-signed)

Want a Discount When You Buy in Bulk for Your Book Club or Organization?

For bulk sales: https://www.porchlightbooks.com/product/burning-light-of-two-stars-a-mother-daughter-story--laura-davis?variationCode=9781954854161#full-description

 

Other info can be found in her press kit: https://bit.ly/3illC9Y

 

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Celebrating 100 Episodes: The Most Downloaded Episodes

Celebrating 100 Episodes: The Most Downloaded Episodes

November 9, 2021

This week is the 100th episode celebration for And Then Everything Changed! I started the podcast on Halloween of 2019 with my first guest, Paul who took a chance on a new show and a new host, and we created one of my favorite episodes to date. Since then, I've gotten to interview people in recovery, survivors, social justice leaders, and so many talented authors. On my website ATECpodcast.com you can go check out and listen to my previous episodes, each categorized by topic, so you can listen to what moves you first! Thank you for tuning in and for being a part of the ATEC community!

Below are links to the 15 most listened-to episodes:

  1. 1. A Living Person Among the Dead featuring Paul Boardman 
  2. 36. From Downward Spiral to the Other Side featuring Ashlee Brown 
  3. 3. Everybody Knew featuring Christine McLean
  4. The COVID-19 Experience- Surviving Coronavirus, Bonus Episode 3
  5. 59. Living Through the Loss of a Spouse featuring Mark Schutter
  6. 61. A Family Survival Story: Prosthesis, Recovery, and Resilience featuring Rosalie
  7. 93. My Salinger Year and a Second Chance at Love featuring Joanna Rakoff
  8. 58. Mother to a Child Born with Differences: From Pain to Advocacy featuring Jaclyn Greenberg
  9. 60. The Power of Advocacy After Childhood Trauma featuring Johnny Crowder
  10. 23. The Duality of the Gift of Coming to America Baktash Ahadi
  11. 27. Unschooling OUrselves Akilah Richards
  12. 45. The Toll of Mental Illness and Finding A Path Forward featuring Debbie Lechtman 
  13. 40. Hollywood Park Mikel Jollett
  14. 97. Becoming the Person You’re Meant to Be After Childhood Violence, Drugs, and Neglect ft. Treveal Lynch
  15. 90. A life of Meaning After Profound Loss Jacqueline Genovese

 

 

About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

 

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Cults in Our Midst featuring Jen Kiaba

Cults in Our Midst featuring Jen Kiaba

October 26, 2021

When Jen Kiaba was growing up in the Unification Church, known as the Moonies in popular culture, a main mantra was “absolute faith, absolute love, absolute obedience” which did not leave most people much room to question authority. Violence was not condoned but children were often hit, and as she came of age and noticed other contradictions, she didn’t have a safe space to process her feelings or make decisions that were right for her. Finally, when she faced an arranged marriage like that of her parents, she knew she had to leave. And when she did, she lost everything: her community, her family, and the only structure she had ever known. Slowly, slowly, she rebuilt her life and today she is an artist and activist who educates others about cults, coercive control, and high control groups. Jen believes cult education is vital because people from a broad range of backgrounds and experiences are vulnerable and she sees similarities between cults and American workplaces, such as amazon, everywhere. In this episode she shares her story, helps identify cult tactics, and offers an inside look at how these groups take root.

 

Connect with Jen:

https://jenkiaba.com

https://instagram.com/jenkiaba

https://facebook.com/jenkiaba

https://twitter.com/jenkiaba

 

About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

For books and information on cults visit Dr. Janja Lalich's site: http://cultresearch.org

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Sexuality IS Sacred featuring Suzanne Najarian

Sexuality IS Sacred featuring Suzanne Najarian

October 12, 2021

Suzanne Najarian had been married for two decades when she realized the sexual desire between her and her husband had all but disappeared. From the outside their relationship they had no deeper sexual connection. She began to study the nature of desire and had what she describes as a cataclysmic awakening which altered her relationship, her sense of self, and how she wanted to live. Soon, she ended her marriage and dove deep into a spiritual, sacred, and sexual practice that transformed her. Today Suzanne is a sex, love, and relationship coach who helps women and men tap into the sacred, spiritual, and sexual life force within them and integrate that energy into all areas of their life. 

 

Connect with Suzanne:

Website: www.suzannenajariangoodson.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suzanne.najarian.goodson/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wholeselfessence/

 

About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

 

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Becoming the Person You‘re Meant to Be After Childhood Violence, Drugs, and Neglect featuring Treveal Lynch

Becoming the Person You‘re Meant to Be After Childhood Violence, Drugs, and Neglect featuring Treveal Lynch

September 28, 2021

When he was growing up, Treveal Lynch’s father was out of the picture, his mom was addicted to drugs and he faced emotional trauma almost on a daily basis. As a teenager he began using drugs and alcohol too, unable to escape from the patterns he grew up around. It wasn’t until he was arrested and found himself standing trial that he realized the way he was living no longer felt right.

In this episode, Treveal shares the story of his childhood and how he came to the decision that he needed to change his life for the better. He is now a faith-based community leader, author of the new book "What Is Enough”, & founder of a self-development company built on his philosophy that we and our possibilities are one and the same; everything we hope to be tomorrow we already are today. Using his own story as guide, he helps individuals revive hope for their lives and reclaim their purpose.

 

Connect with Treveal:

Treveal's Website www.iamthepossible.com 

Treveal's Facebook https://www.facebook.com/treveal.lynch 

Treveal's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamthepossible/  

Free Self-Worth/Self-Discovery Workbook https://www.myworthworkbook.com/free-download 

What Is Enough: “How to lighten your load and find what makes you happy” https://bit.ly/mywhatisenoughbook

 

About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

 

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Ninety-Nine Fire Hoops featuring Allison Hong Merrill

Ninety-Nine Fire Hoops featuring Allison Hong Merrill

September 14, 2021

When Allison Hong Merrill was growing up in the slums of Taiwan her family was riddled with cycles of alcoholism and domestic violence. She couldn’t imagine a different life until she met Mormon missionaries, began attending church, and witnessed, for the first time, families who cared for one another. She became more and more active in the church and eventually fell in love, moving to the US to be with her American husband. But soon after, he abandoned Allison, took her money, and left her alone in her new country with no resources.

 

In this episode, Allison, whose new memoir Ninety-Nine Fire Hoops is out this month, shares how she found strength, created a new life for herself, and what her past has helped her understand.

 

Connect With Allison:

Ninety-Nine Fire Hoops on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Ninety-Nine-Fire-Hoops-Allison-Merrill/dp/1647421896

Allison's Website: www.allisonhongmerrill.com,

Allison's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allison.hong.merrill

Allison's Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/xieshou

Allison's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonhongmerrill

 

About Ronit‘s book When She Comes Back: https://ronitplank.com/book/

 

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