And Then Everything Changed
Healing Sexual Wounds featuring Leah Carey

Healing Sexual Wounds featuring Leah Carey

June 8, 2021

Most of Leah Carey’s memories growing up are black spots. Her dad was an alcoholic and he was abusive to her and her mom. He would tell her how unhappy he was with her mother and that Leah should at all costs avoid growing up to be like her. He discussed his sex life with Leah, talked about her body in a sexual way, and exposed her to sexual content in the home. Even when she moved out of the house their relationship remained very strained and Leah increasingly felt like she was shrinking inside and that she needed to disappear. As an adult she took a trip that would mark the beginning of her sexual awakening. She had her first experience with a woman, learned about tantric sex, and began to heal from the trauma that had marked most of her life. Today Leah is a sex and intimacy coach and host of the podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex whose mission it is  to empower women into being equal co-creators of their sexual experience.

 

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Find Your Harbor: Life in the Wake of Loss with featuring Margo Fowkes

Find Your Harbor: Life in the Wake of Loss with featuring Margo Fowkes

June 1, 2021

After her son Jimmy died of a cancer rarely found in children, Margo Fowkes found that what helped her through her profound grief the most was other people leaving space in the world for him. She discovered support in loved ones talking about Jimmy and sharing their experience of losing him. She founded the Salt Water community to help people heal and live after their own devastating loss--a child, a sibling, a spouse, a parent, a close friend-- and to provide a safe harbor where those grieving can find comfort, support and tools to survive their loss and rebuild their life. In this episode Margo shares Jimmy’s story and talks about how she’s navigated a grief that she has come to understand will forever come in waves.

 

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Shaking off the Past: From Difficult Childhood to a Place of Peace featuring Michael Arterberry

Shaking off the Past: From Difficult Childhood to a Place of Peace featuring Michael Arterberry

May 25, 2021

Michael Arterberry grew up in a home ravaged by the violence and mood swings of his alcoholic father. In order to protect Michael, his mother signed him up for as many sports as she could and he excelled. His coaches became like his dads, his teammates, his siblings, and the accolades he got for his performance prevented him from abusing alcohol, drugs, and people.  The trauma he and his siblings experienced altered their lives forever and each of them learned to cope differently: some with alcohol, some with denial. In this episode Michael shares the story of how he survived his childhood while protecting his mother as best he could, when he truly understood the severity of what his whole family had endured, and the clarity and strength that enables him to help support young people who have also survived difficult homes.  

 

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A Better Culture for Women in the Workplace and Beyond featuring Laurel Anne Stark

A Better Culture for Women in the Workplace and Beyond featuring Laurel Anne Stark

May 20, 2021

For years Laurel Anne Stark put her mental health aside and focused only on work. She drove herself to exhaustion the way so many self-employed women do: never cutting herself slack, never asking for help, yet determined to focus only on work and being productive. Then one day she began digging into research about the wellbeing of the self-employed. She found that 3 out of 4 entrepreneurs suffer from a mental health issue which is further compounded for women in business because of the wage gap, sexual harassment, and the lack of gender parity. Because of these inequities, many women avoid or leave the workforce which further reduces women’s representation and influence. Laurel changed the way she lives and works and is now on a mission to help create better mental health infrastructure for women in the workplace and build a new culture that supports and lifts them.

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  • Laurel's Story
  • Why she founded Resurgo.Co
  • How she helps female entrepreneurs through her business

 

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Life After Childhood on a Commune Featuring Phoebe Pilaro

Life After Childhood on a Commune Featuring Phoebe Pilaro

May 18, 2021

Phoebe Pilaro spent her early childhood on a commune in the Redwood forest in the Santa Cruz mountains with very little adult supervision. Her parents had an unstable relationship and her father, likely bipolar and manic, was kicked out of the commune. Phoebe and her mother soon set off to other places and though her mother was a social and happy woman, she never set up boundaries during Phoebe’s childhood, gave her advice on growing up, or taught her about sex and protection. During her teenage years Phoebe did anything she wanted-- drinking, smoking weed and having sex. She was about to turn 16 when she found out she was pregnant and had 2 STDs and she became suicidal. She couldn't see a way forward and decided that ending her life was the only option for her. But then, something shifted and she decided she wanted to become a new person. 

 

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  • Phoebe's story
  • How she dealt with the anger she discovered she had with her parents 
  • How she came to forgive them both
  • What parenting is like for her now that she’s a mom of two teenagers

 

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Generation Cult featuring Dhyana Levey

Generation Cult featuring Dhyana Levey

May 13, 2021

Dhyana Levey, creator of the podcast Generation Cult, knew she was growing up on a kind of commune in California but didn’t realize it was a cult until she was much older. Though her memories of childhood are often difficult, her curiosity about what her family was involved in spurred her to investigate. Soon after, she began pursuing interviews with other cult survivors gathering information, and attending the International Cultic Studies conference. Dhyana joins me to share what she’s learned about cult mentality, abuse, and the heavy burden of fear and alienation many cult survivors experience.

 

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Parents Who Leave for Cults featuring Lily Dunn

Parents Who Leave for Cults featuring Lily Dunn

May 11, 2021

Author Lily Dunn’s father joined Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh’s movement about the same time that And Then Everything Changed host Ronit Plank’s mother followed him to India. They both grew up in the shadow of Bhagwan (also known at Osho, the guru at the center of Netflix’s docuseries Wild Wild Country), each with a parent more devoted to his teachings and the lifestyle he extolled than to them. Lily shares some of what she witnessed at the Rajneeshee house she visited on weekends and she and Ronit discuss how their relationships with their father and mother respectively irrevocably changed when they chose freedom over parenting. In this special episode to mark the release of Ronit's memoir When She Comes Back and Lily's forthcoming memoir, the authors discuss their books, writing about family, and how watching Wild Wild Country which became a media sensation affected them. 

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Emma’s Laugh: The Gift of Second Chances featuring Diana Kupershmit

Emma’s Laugh: The Gift of Second Chances featuring Diana Kupershmit

May 4, 2021

Diana Kupershmit and her husband had no warning that their first baby Emma would be born with a rare genetic disorder that would leave her profoundly physically and intellectually disabled. A young couple who had been high school sweethearts, they tried to grapple with the  devastating news. When a social worker familiar with their case suggested they give Emma up for adoption, they decided she  would be better off.

But soon, pregnant with her second child and wracked by regret and concern over news of Emma’s declining health, Diana realized she needed to get her daughter back. 

 

In this episode Diana shares the story of emigrating to the US from Soviet Ukraine in 1979 along with millions of other Jews escaping systemic discrimination, meeting her true love, and how first their profound sorrow about Emma and then their profound love for her shaped their life. 

 

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Finally Safe at Home featuring Sabrina Osso

Finally Safe at Home featuring Sabrina Osso

April 27, 2021

Sabrina Osso describes her childhood as stolen. Her father was abusive to her mother and she witnessed violence and endured trauma for 15 years. She was an extremely quiet child, was bullied in school, and her fear of both home and school created almost incapacitating difficulty for her. By high school she was suicidal but wouldn’t get help until college when a friend urged her to seek therapy. 

 

Through years of hard emotional work she began to heal, finally realized her dream of becoming a dancer, and founded a company whose mission it is to certify homes and establish procedures to facilitate eviction in the event of domestic abuse. Violence stole so many years from her when she was too young to escape, but Sabrina has created a passionate life of advocacy, courage, and the confidence that she is worthy of love, contentment, and peace. 

 

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Two Sisters on an Organizing Mission featuring Kelly and Katie McNemamin

Two Sisters on an Organizing Mission featuring Kelly and Katie McNemamin

April 23, 2021

Kelly McMenamin and Katie McMenamin are sisters and organizational specialists dedicated to helping others organize according to personality. After years of disagreeing with one another on how to declutter and whether to file or pile, they co-founders PixiesDidIt! After 10+ years of field research, they discovered that how you organize is hardwired in your brain and organization isn’t about making it perfect. It's about finding stuff when you need it. They created an assessment that calculates personality and harnesses individual strengths and preferences to transform living spaces into ideal places. On this episode Kelly and Katie help usher in spring and share some of their best tips for smoothing out the edges in pandemic-weary people and homes. 

 

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